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How to stop absorbing other people’s negativity like a sponge (Part 2)

By Michal Spiegelman

One of the women who scored really high when taking the Beacons of Change Empath Quiz reached out to me for help. In her email she wrote, “I have only recently taken the time to really explore what it means to be an empath, and it’s like I could rewrite each story of my life through this lens and suddenly everything can make sense. I’ve really embraced this journey, and I am excited to continue learning about myself!”

What an interesting perspective to think about rewriting each chapter of the story of your life with the empath’s lens! I’m sure that you would no longer feel that something was wrong with you, and you would not see your sensitivity as a weakness if you looked at life from a place of seeing your sensitivity as your superpower.

For most of my life, I felt too sensitive. Expressing emotions was not encouraged in my house growing up, and I learned to numb my feelings so I didn’t get punished for showing them in public. No wonder that I grew up feeling insecure about who I was. I kept getting messages that I needed to toughen up.

It was only when I found Reiki and started to work with energy that I realized that my ability to sense things, to know things, and to feel them was a gift. Reiki helped me to use my sensitivity as a way to contribute and make a difference in the world.

In part 1 of this blog I shared the Beacons of Change RFR Formula for clearing emotions. You learned how to put the brakes on before you say “yes,” and you chose your best style for setting boundaries.

In this blog, I want to offer additional ways to stop absorbing other people’s negativity. I can honestly say that the ideas I am going to share with you now were a game-changer for me and for thousands of empaths I have worked with.

Accepting responsibility to upshift

As an empath, you are easily triggered by negative energy around you. Once you’re triggered, you automatically shift to a low energy level and give away your power.

While the downshift is automatic, the upshift is intentional, and you have the power to create it.

For example:

Let’s say that you just spent 30 minutes listening to a very negative story shared by another person. You notice that the conversation affects your mood. You even start feeling some pressure over your heart area.

That’s your automatic reaction. You are defaulting into a feeling of anxiety and hopelessness.

In other words, you are triggered. You drop to a place of anxiety and wanting to avoid.

You feel anxious and hopeless.


You accept responsibility for creating an upshift?

You intentionally gather your strength, step back into your power, or take back the power you gave away?

You still feel sad, but you don’t feel anxious or hopeless?

You remind yourself that you can only help the other person if your energy level is higher than theirs?

So you elevate yourself. You make sure to stay or to shift into an uplifted place.

You feel grateful and honored to be of service.

My point:

Instead of trying to stop absorbing negativity from others, shift your focus to recognizing the automatic downshift and choosing to intentionally upshift.

Give it a try, Beacon. Next time that you are worried about absorbing negativity from others, accept responsibility for releasing the negativity as fast as you can. You have the power. Believe me!

Reiki is the best remedy I know.

As empaths, we get drained after being overstimulated, spending time with certain people, or even having a private conversation with one person. Every day, negativity from others attaches to our energy field and pulls us down. Being emotionally exhausted becomes our default.

If only we could just turn on a switch that would give us back our energy!

We can. Reiki is the switch!

When you learn to give Reiki to yourself, you develop a daily practice of “turning on the switch.” You simply sit for 10 minutes at the beginning or the end of your day, and you charge your body with pure universal energy. With no equipment, just your two hands, and the ability to give yourself Reiki anywhere (in bed, on a chair, in your car, on the train or the bus, in the dentist’s chair, at the movies…), you continue to charge yourself, just like you charge your smartphone or your laptop every day.

People come to us to learn Reiki and leave surprised by the amount of personal healing they experience in the class. In fact, 90% of participants report having experienced a major shift at the end of class. They feel lighter, more optimistic, joyful, and inspired—like they’ve reclaimed their vitality. That’s the beautiful thing about Reiki—it’s a self-guided healing technique, which means the energy will flow to wherever you need it most.

Empaths must maintain a daily practice of filling up their cup.

It might sound strange to you, but I have heard from thousands of students how Reiki has helped them to detach from other people’s negativity.

In just six hours, you can learn to give Reiki to yourself.

I have been living and breathing Reiki since 1996, and if it wasn’t for the Reiki, I wouldn’t be able to live as an empowered empath and a Beacon.

We teach Reiki in Atlanta and New York, and I also teach Reiki as a live online class that you can take from anywhere in the world.

Visit our Reiki page and start turning on the switch.

And before I let you go, here are a few resources that are available for you, dear empath:

Take the Empath Quiz.

Explore the Empath’s Empowerment Online Course.

Read more blogs for empaths.

And again: consider taking a Reiki class.

Meet Michal
Michal Spiegelman

Michal Spiegelman is Medical Intuitive who helps women get to the root source behind disease, disharmony, imbalance, stress, and trauma-related conditions.

Having studied in Israel, Germany, England, and the U.S., Michal is a Certified Professional Coach, a Reiki Master, and a former social worker who brings years of experience working with a variety of modalities into her intuitive teachings, coaching and mentoring.

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