How to Embrace the Darkness in Your LifeI had an “aha” moment the other day that I want to share it with you.

After a week of being in deep conversations with women, I noticed that when women speak from their hearts, a lot of pain and burden is expressed. These women, and maybe you, need a reminder and a little bit of encouragement to bring some lightness into the conversation so they don’t stay stuck with heavy feelings.

It made me think about the natural attraction that many of us have to suffering and pain, and it made me wonder, why does it feel safer to stay in the dark? Is it because darkness is more familiar and the thought of lightening up is strange and unknown for us? Is darkness an easier place to be in than light? It felt like the right time to reflect a little bit on why and how to embrace the darkness.

It was a beautiful night when I was pondering these thoughts in my head. I took a minute to pause and look at the sky. I noticed one evening that the evening sky is absolutely beautiful, so I spent few minutes just looking at the dark sky.

And then it hit me:

When you look at the dark sky at night, you see the stars, which are thousands of light years away from you. The darkness can feel very overwhelming and you might feel as small as the faraway stars, but there is something else that is really important for us to remember. At some point, every day, the darkness is slowly shifting into light, the moon and the stars keep traveling, and the sun rises and night turns into day.

This transition from darkness to light seems to be effortless and natural on the planet. Why can’t it be as easy for us to transform darkness to light in our lives?

Just like in nature, we can transform our darkness to light with ease and serenity.

But here is what we must do first:

We must accept, embrace, and own the darkness as a healthy part of our lives.

I wouldn’t be where I am today if I didn’t embrace the darkness.

I’ve been pregnant 8 times. I have 2 wonderful children. Six of my pregnancies ended in the 6th or 7th month of the pregnancy. I went into early labor and a few of my labor experiences were very traumatic. I was on bed rest or in the hospital for almost 10 years while going through the pregnancies. I ended up being depressed, and every time I lost a baby, the grief in my heart became heavier and heavier. I couldn’t handle the grief. Being in my dark place led me to Reiki. I had to find a way to heal my broken heart. And I did!

Hours and hours of therapy made me aware of what I was feeling, but the heaviness in my heart only started to lift when I found my spiritual and healing practice and allowed true healing to begin.

I learned how to embrace the darkness.

I learned to give purpose to my personal darkness.

Fast-forward 21 years later…

I continue to create a delicate dance between darkness and light, reminding myself that darkness and light go together, and true healing happens when we accept the darkness as part of the process.

Do I have some ideas about transforming darkness to light? Oh, yeah! I have plenty of ideas, but I am not going to share them with you today.

First, I want you to spend some time making friends with the darkness and become willing to keep dancing with me on this journey from darkness to light.

A word of wisdom:

Sitting with darkness is valuable, as long as we are able to find hope and give it purpose.

Living the happy, free life you are meant to live might feel light years away, but finding hope and purpose to the darkness will lead you there.


I invite you to spend some time looking at the sky, paying attention to the stars, the moon, the natural cycle of transitioning from day to night and from night to day.

What are you learning about your own personal journey from darkness to light?

What dark parts of your life are you ready to embrace?

What is your personal experience with darkness and light?

Please share your light by posting in the comments area. Let’s take this journey from darkness to light together, without fear.

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