Hey Beacon! This is Michal Spiegelman with this week’s Upshift Vlog. Tell me if this sounds familiar: You take care of everybody around you, and you feel like no one is taking care of you. You like to give—especially if you’re an empath or a natural giver—but giving is not as fulfilling as it used to be. It drains you. You try to take care of yourself, but then you end up feeling guilty. What kind of mother would leave her kids to a stranger and retreat? How dare you spend time with your girlfriends when your husband is home alone by himself?
Well, Beacon, here is the thing: You don’t need to be everything to everyone because it is costing you your well-being. Many women, even those who are doing the inner work, still feel selfish and guilty when caring for themselves. But when you come back to wholeness, when you reconnect with your personal power, it benefits not only you, but also the people around you.
People-pleasing, accommodating other people, sacrificing—all those automatic tendencies—are draining. Every time you see yourself as being selfish, every time you feel guilty, you drain yourself and you give away your power. And living as a Beacon, a source of light for other people, really means maintaining a connection with your personal power as well as with a power greater than yourself, or spirituality. We can’t afford to give away our power every time we feel guilty or selfish because we disconnect from spirituality.
So next time you feel selfish or guilty for taking care of yourself, consider this: Not only are you draining your energy, you also aren’t fulfilling your sacred responsibility to live a spiritual life!
Here is why. Living a spiritual life means sharing your light and your gifts with the world. That’s how we Beacons serve. And when you honor yourself, you honor that which is greater than you. Your purpose, your calling, and your mission. For so many years, I didn’t honor my mission, my calling, my purpose, because I made other people’s needs more important than mine. I learned it from my mother, who really used to sacrifice her life for us, and she never took good care of herself. And when she died at 65, she had nothing left in her cup—not only to give to others but also nothing left for herself. So do me a favor, Beacon. Stop feeling guilty and selfish every time you take care of yourself.
Upshifting Mission of the Week:
Accept your sacred responsibility to care for yourself so that your cup, your full cup, will allow you to contribute, to shine, and to serve.
I really want you to see the connection between self-care and fulfilling your mission to lead as a Beacon, to lead a spiritual life. I really hope this makes sense to you, and I would love to ask you to email me back or to send me a message and tell me if this speaks to you. This is really important, so I want to make sure that you understand.
And for your sticky note this week, just to remind you on this, I’m going to give you two options, because it was really hard for me to decide. Choose which one works for you, write it on a sticky note, and hang it in your space.
Sticky Note of the Week:
When caring for myself,
I fulfill my sacred responsibility
to serve, to contribute,
to live a spiritual life.
When I honor myself,
I honor that which
is greater than myself.