I had an interesting conversation with a group of women in a recent class. Most of the women in the group were empaths. (Not sure if you are an empath? Take this quiz and find out). Those women are natural giver who tend to take on other people’s emotions. They also tend to please others.
Taking on the role of the “peacemaker” is often combined with taking on the “caretaker” role.
The result is they bring these same roles they play in the world into their romantic relationship and they don’t feel fulfilled or loved.
In this week’s vlog, I present a powerful way to upshift when you tend to take care of others all the time. If you are looking into improving your romantic relationship, or your marriage, don’t miss this vlog.
I liked the idea of looking at your role with your partner. I try to be a good communicator and acknowledge my husbands efforts and things he does for me. The difficulty I have is that of being a lover. In part this is due to my age ( 76) and lack of interest in having sex as it is painful. Also in part due to infidelity on his part. I have accepted that but the idea of initiating intimacy is not a place I seem to be able to go.
Thank you for making yourself vulnerable, Sandi! Your comment made me think. I wonder if there can be more than one definition to role of a lover. Sex is one way to get intimate, but there are others layers of intimacy that can be created between two people, especially couples who spend many years together and they have a lot of “history”. So maybe think about creative ways to step into the role of the lover, in your own terms.