Dear Powerful Woman,
As a life-coach and a Balance Expert, I mainly work with women. But I also enjoy working with men and?I have noticed that they get quicker results than women do.
For Father’s day I decided to send a special note to the men in my list, and I want to share it with you.
Here’s the note I sent to the men in my list:
Happy Father’s Day!
Whether you’re a father, a son, a grandfather, or all of the above, this is a day when we women give the spotlight over to you.
And believe me – you deserve to be acknowledged!
As a Balance Expert (and a woman), I know that sometimes the women in your life ask you to do impossible things.
We ask you to read our minds. We ask you to know exactly what we want without us having to say it. We ask you to make yourself gentle and sensitive, but when you do, we want you to “man up”. We ask you to show us appreciation and love in ways don’t even cross your mind. We ask you to be who you are while trying to change you.
For today, I encourage you to be yourself.
Being yourself means connecting to your true gifts, paying attention to the value you bring to people’s lives and feeling confident to show up as the real you in the world.
Being yourself means communicating openly and asking for what you need.
Let the women in your life know how you feel and ask them, in a kind and loving way, to allow you to be yourself.
I am here to support you in any way I can and would love to hear back from you.
Here’s to your life of authenticity and joy!
What encouraged me to write this note is not only the experience I have with couples I work with but also my personal experience being happily married. If I were to measure the level of control I brought into our relationship on a scale of 1 ? 10, it would probably be at 12 when I met my husband and be at 2 now. (I hope he agrees… I’m afraid to ask!)
I used to write birthday cards to my husband saying, ?I love you just the way you are? or ?I love you unconditionally,? but my actions would not match my intention. My actions said: ? I only love you if you change this or fix that.?
Over the years I’ve done some work, cleaned up ?my side of the street,? and I am happy to say that I am doing much better now with allowing him to be real, allowing him to be himself and loving him for who he is, regardless of what he does or doesn’t do.
Do you find yourself sending conflicting messages to your loved one?
In what ways do you ask him to be himself and try to change him at the same time?
What have you done that has helped you to be more accepting?
Let’s start a conversation around this. I?d love to hear what’s true for you.
P.S. I truly would love to hear from you so share your insights and feedback below!