December 21, winter solstice: The shortest day of the year. The darkest day of the year. The longest night of the year. But the very next day, the light begins to return. Slowly, slowly, the nights become shorter, and the days become longer.
As I was meditating and reflecting on darkness and light (which go hand in hand to make a whole), an important word emerged from within.
In the language of Beacons of Change, we use the word “light” often when we talk about staying connected with the inner light and bringing in divine light. (If you’re curious what these phrases mean, you can read my article
Nothing Can Dim The Light Which Shines From Within.)
But the word LIGHTER emerged with a different meaning. It FELT different.
I began to reflect on the different words and meanings I associate with it.
Lighter = Birds, feathers, butterflies, clouds
Lighter = Clear-minded
Lighter = Clutter-free environment (fewer emails, less paper, less stuff)
Lighter = Emotionally clutter-free
Lighter = Mentally clutter-free
Lighter = The opposite of heavier (Lighter and heavier feel so different.)
Lighter = Softening up, getting free, flying high
Lighter = Feeling expanded, not shrunk, in your body
Lighter = ____________________ (Fill in the blank. What does it mean to you?)
This year was intense. Many of us shared a collective broken heart brought on by so much pain in the world around us. There was a feeling of heaviness in so many of my conversations with women. We were deeply affected.
Let’s release the heaviness so we can start feeling lighter.
I could give you a list of things to do to feel lighter. I could recommend spending more time in nature, doing a “burning ritual,” getting some insight through journaling, and more. But I’m not going to.
I want to keep this conversation as light as possible.
I want to inspire not to do but to be…LIGHTER.
What’s the point of getting clarity about the path to feeling lighter if the path is anything but a lighter one?
There are a few things you need to remember in order to enjoy your quest to lightness:
- You have the power to choose how you want to feel.
- Other people and situations cannot make you feel a certain way. It’s totally your job.
- Feeling heavy has benefits to it. Yes, it does.
Feeling heavy keeps us safe and comfortable. We don’t have to take risks, to step out of our comfort zones, or to lighten up. It’s much easier and more familiar to stay heavy. It’s less work. The question is, how do you really want to end the year: feeling heavier or feeling lighter?
How you feel at the end of the year dictates how you will feel at the beginning of the new year.
Last week, I came back from a 13-day trip to Israel where I had to take care of some matters concerning my dad’s deteriorating Alzheimer’s. There were a lot of family dynamics to deal with and a lot to get done in the short time I was there. Although my dad didn’t recognize me, I felt a connection even when I said goodbye to him as if it was the last time we would see each other in person. Heavy, right? Coming back, not only was my heart heavy, I actually felt shrunk and contracted in my body.
On my first day back in New York, I was super intentional about releasing the heaviness and feeling lighter. Taking a water aerobics class did miracles to ease the tension in my body. The rest was simply emotional work. I made it my mission, my mantra, my intention, my devotion to FEEL LIGHTER.
Give yourself the gift of LIGHTER.
Make it your mission, your mantra, your intention, your devotion to FEEL LIGHTER.
Think lighter. Feel lighter. Be lighter.