Hello Beacon, and welcome to my weekly Upshifting Vlog.
In my conversations with women, I often hear them say that they feel lonely even when spending time with their partners, family, and friends. When I talk to moms, I often hear from them that they can be very comfortable cheering up their children, being present for their children, and interacting all day with the people around them. Yet even when they have had an accomplished and productive day, they find themselves feeling lonely at the end of it.
When I think about people like me who are highly sensitive to energy or who are empaths, I think about how we tend to interact with many people because we are natural givers and that’s how we serve others. But we also tend to get emotionally exhausted because we feel what other people feel, and sometimes we absorb their energy. So, for us, it’s really important to spend some time alone. For any woman who gives to family members or who serves others professionally, it’s really important to spend some time alone.
But spending too much time alone can lead to isolation and feelings of loneliness.
When you have dropped to a lower level of energy, spending time alone instead of taking the time to really nurture and energize yourself can also lead to feeling lonely and isolated. There is a difference between choosing to be in solitude and spend quality time with yourself and disconnecting to an extreme that might get you even more depressed.
I want you to think about your tendencies: When do you feel lonely? Whether you feel lonely when you are with other people or when you are with yourself, I have a cure for you.
The cure for loneliness is finding your soul tribe. And finding the right soul tribe, not just any soul tribe.
It took me years of interacting with many people and still feeling lonely to realize that what my soul craved was interaction with a very specific group of people.
What my soul craves, and probably your soul craves too, is interaction with soul sisters—with like-minded women who share the same type of values as me, who walk a spiritual path and are committed to serving but, at the same time, to taking care of themselves. Because when you’re part of a soul tribe, you’re walking a spiritual path together, and people simply get you.
So I want you to consider joining our Beacons of Change Soul Tribe, or, maybe I should say, joining the Beacons of Change community and making it your soul tribe. I think the easiest way for me to explain who we are is by presenting you with the Beacons of Change manifesto. When I created this manifesto, I really gave a lot of attention to every word, and I feel like every word in this manifesto comes from such a rich world of years of experience and conversations with women, so there is a lot of depth to each phrase here.
I want to read it to you first.
We know that healing together outshines healing alone.
winds of change pull us off course, we create our own turning points, & direct our own destinies.
CARING FOR OTHERS AND FOR OURSELVES.
to radical self-care
and to joy.
We resist hiding in the back.
We resist staying small.
our failures, & our humanness.
we always choose to rise!
We are the Beacons of Change.
Upshifting Mission of the Week:
Go within and ask yourself: Do you have a soul tribe? Do you have a group of like-minded women who make you feel nurtured, loved, and accepted on a soul level? If not, think about being more engaged and active with our Beacons of Change community.
When I created the Beacons of Change community, my intention was to create a space for women to feel loved, accepted, and safe to take a risk without feeling judged. And there are really different levels of engagement within the community, depending on what you need. You can join our online community where you get to interact with me daily, and I guide you and share my wisdom—or you can be more passive and join a less active level of the community.
Drop me a note and tell me that you want to hear about different options for joining the Beacons of Change community, and then you and I will communicate.
Next time when you want to isolate, when you feel lonely, below is what I want you to say to yourself because there are ways to be in solitude and to honor your needs without feeling lonely.
Sticky Note of the Week:
outshines healing alone.
Thank you for allowing me to serve you as a beacon. My goal is to empower you to be the beacon that you are. See you next time!