When I picked up the phone, the voice on the other end immediately said, “I need your help. My daughter barely survived a plane crash. She needs deep healing.”
The woman on the line was very emotional. She was clearly crying. When I met her in the hospital the next day, her daughter, Jessica, had just gotten out of surgery. We talked outside her hospital room.
Jessica had survived a small airplane crash. Her husband, the pilot, had not. She had many broken bones and one hugely broken heart. I started to feel anxious. I was still relatively close to the start of my career as a Reiki practitioner, and I worried it was too much responsibility to agree to give her Reiki.
Despite my anxiety, I knew I would rise to the challenge. In a way, I identified with Jessica. I had found Reiki when my own heart was shattered by loss. I was blown away by the deep healing I had experienced shortly after starting to give Reiki to myself. Giving Reiki to others was never my plan. I had come to Reiki for myself. But the universe provided me with opportunities to share healing with others, and I trusted the universe.
At the time, my Reiki community (now more than 1000 people) comprised fewer than 100 graduates. They were passionate and dedicated to the practice, and they joined me in small groups a few times a week to give Reiki to Jessica.
I learned some of my biggest lessons about deep healing from those experiences. Looking back, much of what I teach and share with my students today was developed and tested during this time.
Staying detached from results is crucial for deep healing
Healing looks differently for different people. Deep healing is uncomfortable. Suppressed feelings might surface. Emotions can feel intense.
The beautiful thing about Reiki is that it has its own intelligence. The Reiki “knows” where to go and what to do. Two people with the exact same symptoms who receive Reiki at the exact same time might respond completely differently.
Jessica’s doctors supported our treating her with Reiki. Thank God they had a holistic approach to healing. Not all doctors do.
Deep healing is best when done without depleting your own energy
Jessica never communicated with us during our sessions. It was clear that she was suffering a lot of physical and emotional pain. One of the biggest lessons we learned as a community from this experience was the importance of taking care of ourselves, of ensuring we were fully grounded before giving Reiki to Jessica.
Every time we entered her room, I guided the group through a self-Reiki centering process. This practice protected us from taking on Jessica’s pain and suffering.
Since then I have made sure to teach all my Reiki students ways to become a centered “instrument” for the healing energy so they can help others heal without depleting their own energy.
When it comes to deep healing, the results might not be immediately visible
After a few weeks of treating Jessica, I got another call from her mother. She asked me to thank everyone but said that Jessica had asked that we stop coming. She did not explain why.
As you can imagine, I was devastated. I searched inside my heart to find my mistake. I spent days and nights obsessing over why she wanted us to stop.
If this happened today, I would easily trust that Jessica had received all the healing she needed for the time being, and I would not doubt, even for a second, that Reiki helped her.
A few months later, I picked up the phone, and the voice on the other line was Jessica. “I wanted to thank you,” she said.
I couldn’t believe it. Jessica said that she had felt a tremendous amount of healing during all those weeks of receiving Reiki. After each Reiki treatment, she became hopeful. She released emotions. She found dealing with the pain to be much more manageable. She felt connected with her husband and had conversations with him in her dreams.
“If it weren’t for the Reiki,” she said, “I wouldn’t be able to walk or want to live.”
When I asked her why she wanted us to stop coming, she said that she had realized it was time for her to start healing herself.
I will always be grateful to Jessica for the lessons she taught me. I like to share her story when I teach Reiki so that I can remind my students that deep healing happens in the right time and in a way that is for the highest good of the person receiving it, whether the change is visible or not.
The spiritual principles I have shared in this true story—helping others heal without depleting our own energy, staying detached from results, and trusting the process even when the results are not visible—are only a few of those that are included in the Beacons of Change Reiki Training.
We teach live online Reiki classes as well as in-person Reiki classes, and we have gathered all the information about our training on the Reiki page.
May you be healed, healing, joyful, and free!