As women, we have been programmed to take care of ourselves only when everybody else has been taken care of. The result is that we operate on autopilot, unaware that we have other choices.

In her book, Choosing ME Before WE, Christine Arylo empowers every woman to separate mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and sometimes even physically from the silent pressure of society, parents, relatives, and friends, and find herself, to see that she has individual choices.

The importance of self-love and making better choices is very familiar to me. As a former ?superwoman,? who operated on autopilot for years, feeling selfish every time I took care of myself, I now know the truth: you can only take care of others after taking care of yourself. ?And what does this mean? Taking care of yourself means treating yourself with the same loving kindness you’re treating others. Taking care of yourself means falling in love with yourself first.

What I love about Christina?s book is how clear and simple she delivers the message: Choosing ME before WE. The ?ME Reflections? that are spread throughout the book, along with the fun exercises provide enjoyable and inspiring ways to put this principle to action, to really change your priorities and begin to treat yourself with care.

Here is Christina?s invitation of Choosing ME before WE:

?Know yourself.

Be honest with yourself.

Love yourself.

Trust yourself.

First.

Then consider HE and WE, never settling for less than what your heart and soul desire.?

Christina also shares great tips and strategies on creating authentic partnership (the WE) instead of unhealthy relationships.

“People are who they are,? she says. ?When you believe a person to be something else, you get hurt and angry and feel deceived. The fact is, while a man’s actions or words may hurt, you’re the one who saw him as someone other than who he really was. It’s all about expectations. Whatever actions someone takes are likely to be totally congruent with who he really is, not who you imagine him to be.”

Author Christine Arylo, who almost married the wrong guy for the wrong reasons, speaks to women of all ages, whether they’re seeking a relationship, evaluating a less-than-fulfilling one, rebounding from a bad breakup, or working through issues with a partner.?Choosing ME Before WE?teaches women to stop settling, to get real about the kind of partner they’re looking for, and to start exploring and creating what they truly want in themselves and their relationships.

This is not a book. It’s a journey: A journey into your heart, into your soul, into the pure truth that is hiding within yourself. It is a journey every woman should take, supported by Christine Arylo’s unconditional love.

I’m honored to be interviewing Christina in my 2014 Wow Year Telesummit event. If you don’t own this book, I encourage you to go out and find it.? It should be standing on your nightstand right now!

Christine Arylo is a transformational teacher and internationally recognized speaker and author. After earning her MBA from Kellogg and climbing the corporate ladder for fifteen years, she chose to devote her life to creating a new reality for women and girls, one based on self-love and true feminine power instead of the relentless pursuit of having to do, be and have it all.