One of the most popular questions empaths and Highly Sensitive People ask me is how they can stop being so sensitive.
My first response is usually “don’t!”
Yes, being sensitive to energy means that you feel the pain and negative energy of others. It also means you feel their good vibes, excitement, and positive energy. Unfortunately, you cannot be selective about what you feel. Your sensitivity is your gift. It’s time to embrace and accept it.
Rather than ceasing to be sensitive altogether, aim to be less sensitive. In other words, accept responsibility and take an active role in the creation of your own powerful life as a sensitive soul.
Learn to wield your creative power and profound sensitivity to positively impact the world around you rather than feel crushed by it.
Many people are empathetic, but not all empathetic people are empaths or highly sensitive.
Let’s back up for a moment and talk about the difference between Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) and empaths.
HSPs are people who feel other people’s energy, are easily overwhelmed by highly stimulating environments, and are more sensitive than the average person to noise, smell, light, energy, etc.
Empaths are people who absorb and feel other people’s energy, emotions, and sometimes physical symptoms. If you are an empath, you are a magnet or a sponge for other people’s stuff.
If you are an empath or highly sensitive to energy you are fully aware of the consequences of your gift. You see and feel the world in an intense and vivid way. People often tell you that you’re “too intense” or “too much,” and you probably grew up believing that something was wrong with you or that you were weak.
Well, my friend, I have news for you.
Your sensitivity is a gift, and you are needed in the world.
It is my mission to help you and other sensitive souls in our Beacons of Change community to manage your sensitivity better so you can shine brighter and express your gifts in a world that needs you.
There are many different ways to be less sensitive. I discussed some of these powerful ways in my previous articles “11 Ways to Clear Energy for Empaths and Sensitive People” and “How to Stop Absorbing Other People’s Negativity Like a Sponge,” part 1 and part 2.
However, what I am about to say next might shock you.
The most effective way to be less sensitive has nothing—and yet everything—to do with being sensitive to energy.
The most effective way to be less sensitive is to start your day with a solid morning routine.
What does a solid morning routine have to do with being less sensitive?
Although there are great techniques specifically designed to help you protect your sensitivity and clear your energy, we usually attach some level of fear and resistance when we try to “do less” of something. There is some judgment in believing that you need to protect yourself. It becomes an intention based in fear. Do you know the saying “whatever you focus on grows?”
One of the foundations of the Beacons of Change Method is raising your vibration and creating a power shift. Once you live your life from an elevated place, there is no need to protect yourself. You are able to choose your responses rather than operate on autopilot.
When you wake up in the morning and reconnect with your sensitivity before heading out into the world, you are ready to align with the universal energy. You are starting your day from an elevated place and thus creating a better experience for yourself.
What I’ve learned from Louise Hay about starting a positive day
Years ago, I read the book You Can Create An Exceptional Life that Louise wrote with Cheryl Richardson. Louise’s description of her morning routine inspired me to be more intentional about the way I start my day. I’ve maintained a solid morning routine since 1996.
Here is what Louise Hay says in the book:
“I have a little routine I’ve done for years. The moment I wake up, I snuggle my body a little deeper into my bed and thank my bed for a really good night’s sleep. I do this for a few minutes as I start my day with positive thoughts.
I tell myself things like: This is a good day. This is going to be a really good day.
Then I get up, use the bathroom, and thank my body for working well.
I spend a little time stretching, too. I have an exercise bar in the doorway of the bathroom that I can use to stretch my entire body. I hold the bar, bring my knees up to my chest three times, and then hang by my arms.
I find that stretching my body in the morning is very good for maintaining flexibility and health.
After I do a few stretches, I make a cup of tea and take it back to bed. I love my bed. I had the headboard specially built at an angle so I can lean up against it when I read or write.
Stretching my body and mind is my morning ritual. Then I start to get up. I try to give myself two hours before I face the rest of the day. I like to be able to do things in a leisurely way. I’ve learned to take my time.
If you are a busy mom or dad who needs to get the children ready for school, or if you have to get to work early, it’s important to give yourself some time to start your day off in the right way.
I would rather wake up earlier to have this extra time in the morning. Even if you give yourself only 10 or 15 minutes, this is absolutely essential. It’s your time for self-care.”
I included the full description in her own words because I didn’t want to take away the opportunity for you to be inspired by her words. I am hoping that her words will be a gift for you, just like they served as my gift.
There are a few key elements in an ideal morning routine:
- Taking time and easing into the day
- Expressing gratitude and appreciation
- Practicing mindfulness and meditation
- Raising your vibration (I do this with Reiki)
Be consistent and spice it up.
I believe in the importance of developing and maintaining a morning routine.
But your routine can look different in different times.
The non-negotiable part is that you are dedicating a sacred time every morning for self-care.
The negotiable part is the length of your practice and what’s included.
My personal morning routine looks like this: I set the alarm and plan to spend 30-60 minutes with my sacred practice, depending on my schedule that day.
A soon as I wake up, when I’m still in bed, I start treating myself with Reiki while chanting gratitude and appreciation. By the way, learning to give Reiki to yourself might be the best choice you ever make if you are interested in ways to be less sensitive. You can read more about it in one of my previous articles, “How Reiki Can Help You Challenge the Negativity Around You.” If you’re being called to learn this amazing practice, join me for one of my in-person or live online Reiki classes.
Once I’m done giving Reiki to myself, I have a cup of water, set up my yoga mat in my living room, and spend a few minutes stretching and doing gentle yoga exercises to help my body open up and prepare for the day. Then, I sit silently in meditation, letting life be as it is and connecting with my feelings. I end my meditation with self-compassion and chanting of gratitude prayers. Sometimes I do a little bit of writing in my journal, and I am ready to have my cup of tea and then breakfast.
The # 1 reason sensitive souls must maintain a sold morning routine
If you want to be less sensitive, you need to take things less personally. If you want to be less sensitive, you need to go through your day from a place of free choice and positive engagement. Without a morning routine, you automatically default to fear, worry, and being in reactionary mode. If you are a sensitive soul, that’s your default. You have lived all your life trying to protect yourself from hurt.
Start your day how you want to live your day. Mindful. Centered. Grounded. Grateful. Poised. Intentional. You will be able to be less reactive and more in control of your choices. You will be able to take things less personally and to see things in perspective.
Beacon, what is your biggest takeaway from this blog? Post it in the comments. I promise I’ll reply.