There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
William Shakespeare, ?Hamlet?
Have you ever thought about how much free energy you would have if you could stop judging?
If you had this extra energy, how would you use it?
Every time you label something as good or bad, right or wrong, you make a judgment that moves you away from peace, love, and kindness. Whether you judge yourself or others, this kind of labeling creates a negative internal dialogue that leads to blame, criticism and shame.
In any given situation you have the option to judge, or to accept.
A negative judgment is destructive energy that multiplies itself.
Acceptance is positive energy that attract love and forgiveness.
Labeling something as good or bad creates a story in your head.
When the story is negative, it prevents you from accepting and forgiving the person or the situation and the result is that you lose your power.
It would be unrealistic to expect to stop judging altogether. It’s a normal human behavior.
A realistic expectation would be to judge less and accept more.
Here’s how you do it:
Step back and observe your thoughts.When you notice that you’ve labelled something or someone as good or bad, admit it: ?I’m judging!?
Pay attention to how it feels in your body when you judge. Physical tension and negative self-talk are your signals that you are losing your energy.
Stick to the facts and change the story in your head. Ask yourself, ?what might be a more supportive way to see the situation??
The secret of judging less and accepting more is to replace your judgment (“it’s good or bad”) with an observation (“here are the facts”).
The Bottom Line:
Instead of losing your energy to judging yourself and others, stick to the fact and find a supportive way to look at the situation.It will free up energy for something better.
How can I see the situation in a different way?
I judge less, I accept more, and I’m at peace.