We all do it: we compare ourselves to someone that makes us feel inferior. Comparing ourselves to others doesn’t support us. Usually, it’s done in a judging way ? why can’t I have what he has or why can’t I be like her?

If you really give it some thought, you are comparing your ?inside? to their ?outside? because they look happy, they look successful. But do you really know what’s going on inside their head or their heart? How do you know they’re not saying the same thing about you?

You usually lose when you compare yourself to others and you end up feeling worse about yourself.

Everyone has a special gift and we don’t need to envy the gifts of others.

Change your focus.

Know your gift. Appreciate your gift. Share your gift.

What’s unique about you? What are some of your gifts and attributes? What would your best friend say if I asked what they love about you?

That’s what you want to share with the world.

One of my clients shared with me this week:

?I had just had lunch with a friend I consider brilliant and I was feeling sort of inferior—then I thought about how difficult it is for her to connect with people and I valued that quality of mine. I let go of envy of her intellect, and appreciated me! That’s progress!?

Bottom line: Everyone has a special gift and we don’t need to envy the gifts of others.

Ask: What’s unique about me and how do I best express that in the world?

Affirm: I know my gift. I appreciate my gift. I share my gift with the world.