Love is funny. You will fully be there for someone you love if they need you, but you can easily become annoyed when they don’t do what you expect them to do or when they don’t show their love for you.
How about showing them love first?
Let’s say that you have someone in your life ? a spouse, a friend a family member – that you tend to criticize or judge. It’s really hard for you to love them. Or maybe, you get into this state of mind of ?why should I love them? They should love me first?. It might be that usually you love someone but right now, you are so far away from loving them because of something they have done.
Love them first.
Because you can’t afford to lose energy for resenting people. Use your energy for other things. Forgive them not because they didn’t do anything, but because you don’t want to give them so much power and lose your energy.
Open you heart. Look within. What do you love about this person? Even if you don’t right now, stretch yourself. What are you learning from them? What gifts do they share with you? You can find something in that person to love. It could be anything ? their smile, their willingness to help someone, their generosity, their stubbornness even. Find something admirable or lovable. There’s something like that in everyone.
And then – Express your love in action.
Rise above the resentment and love them. Yes, love them first. Forget about the competition.
Give them a smile, a hug, a kiss, a good thought.
Read my blog what to do when he is pushing your buttons-3 secrets to long lasting relationships to get more ideas about sharing your love.
Bottom Line: Let go of the past, forgive, open your heart and show your love in action.
Ask: What is something I love about this person and how can I show it in action today?
Affirm: I open my heart and share my love. I am safe, loving and loveable.