A few days ago, I was on the escalator at the airport to get to my gate. A woman in front of me was standing next to her suitcase, blocking the way for anyone in a hurry. During the short escalator ride, 3 people, hurrying to catch their flights, had to ask her to clear the way so they could get back. Each time, she obliged and then moved her suitcase back to block the way. I could see her getting frustrated with each person that asked her to move. She was probably blaming the 3 people who made her move to the side, instead of just moving to the side to leave the way open in the first place. Instead, she insisted on standing in the middle, and created catabolic, negative energy.
It made me think:
Why do we prefer to blame others or to blame the situation, and instead of seeing our part in it and how we change the situation?
How many times do we get a clear message that the solution is simple, we know how to solve a problem, but we don’t take the action?
Is it because we want to do it our way?
Are we too stubborn? Our ego that preventing us from admitting our faults?
In the 12-step programs they say, ?our troubles are our own making?.
Real healing, real personal growth happens when we are willing to admit out faults.
In every situation, there are some things we can control and some we can’t. We can never control other people but we can always control or at least influence our thinking, feelings and actions.
It’s always easier to blame somebody else than to take responsibility. But when you’re blaming someone else, pointing your finger at them, your 4 other fingers are still bent and pointing towards yourself.
If we accept responsibility, we can consciously change our thinking. Taking responsibility helps us be less resentful. Resentment creates conflict, tension, catabolic energy. Resentments releases un-healthy catabolic hormones in our bodies.
Remember the woman at the escalator?
She could have actually create anabolic, positive energy in the same situation by changing her thinking. If instead of thinking ?I’ve had a bad day and I deserve to stand wherever I want? or ?who are you to tell me to move??? she could have looked at it as, ?glad to help? or ?hope he catches his flight? she could’ve replaced the resentment with gratitude and peace.
We are in charge of where we stand.
We have the power to control our thinking, feelings and actions, as long as we are willing to see our part, change our thinking and behavior and not try to change somebody else’s.